The Homeless Man

Last night I was taking the trash out from the restaurant where I work. While I´m struggling to make it all the way to the trash cans with my giant bag of restaurant garbage, a what appears to be homeless man, walks up to me in a rapid pace, as he is right next to me he goes: Hey, do you want to get together after you finish work??
I politely responded with a:
Then I just kept walking and he calls out: Hey! Beautiful! Hey!?! As alluring as he was, I chose to ignore him. When I walked back to the restaurant after throwing the trash he seemed to have given up and continued his search for a late night hook up elsewhere.


The Motorboater

I´ve been a bit absent for the past two weeks, and honestly it´s been due to a lack of harassments, I almost had my faith in humanity restored. Could it be that creepy guys on the street had become extinct? Well no, today on the metro one of them resurfaced to assure me that they´re not going anywhere. A guy entered the train with his friend, saw me and went: Maaamacitaaa! Hooolaaa! Followed by him motorboating into the air:
God, that´s attractive dude…
He finished his little mating ritual with pointing to his crotch while going: Come here! Come here!

”I have no sympathy for whores” Why Feminism is still needed – Part 1

Ok everyone, grab yourself a second cup of coffee and maybe a snack, cause this is going to be a long one! I have on more than one occasion been in discussions with people who feel like feminism is no longer needed because we live in a modern society where women have the same opportunities/rights as men. It´s true that we´ve come a long way, those of us who live in the welfare countries of western society, thanks to our feminist grandmothers who worked their butts off getting us the right to vote, to drive a car, to wear pants, the right not to be owned by the man we marry ecc. However misogyny still very much exists, just in a different form. Most of us are so used to it that we don´t even recognize it for what it is. Every Sunday I will take a break from my usual street harassment posts and instead post a new part in my ”why feminsm is still needed” series. Not only will I give you the reasons, I will also explain why feminism is your friend, not your enemy, and that goes for both men and women. There´s a common misunderstanding that feminists hate men, we don´t, we hate the patriarchal structures of society. Feminism loves men, in fact we love men and women equally!

So here it goes, Why Feminism is still needed – Part 1:

Rape Culture


What happened in Steubenville last year was a horrible shocking example of what we call rape culture. If we look past the horrifying details of the victim being dragged around unconscious and referred to as ”the dead girl”, all the tweeting, the facebooking and the bystander effect, this isn´t a rare exception, it´s a common mentality in our average society. A woman gets raped, and immediately the following questions are raised: What was she wearing? Had she been drinking? Did she really say no? Are you sure she didn´t actually want it? Wasn´t she kind of asking for it, drinking and then going home with that guy she barely knew? Poor guy, he didn´t stand a chance with her acting all drunk and slutty right there in front of him, and then when she suddenly changed her mind, whatever her reasons were, we all know guys can´t just stop in the middle of expecting sex, he had no choice, he had to rape her! And now his whole career is ruined because of that drunken temptress of a woman! According to society men aren´t thinking intelligent human beings, they are testosterone driven animals who go out of control at the sight of female flesh. Men are dumb neanderthals and women are just devilish whores.

Why we need feminism: Feminists believe that both men and women are intelligent thinking people. Short skirts and alcohol don´t cause rape, men in general don´t cause rape, a woman having consentual sex with 300 men doesn´t cause rape, RAPISTS cause rape. Feminism wants to end the victim blaming. Nobody would ask a victim of a robbery if he wasn´t walking around with his wallet visble in his pocket while walking down the street in a suspicious neighbourhood, and therefor maybe it was his own fault for tempting the robbers… Rape is a crime, just like robbery, murder, assault, and the only one who should be held responsible is the perpetrator.

I want to share a story with you, from my own life, something that happened to me when I had recently been dumped and was utterly heart broken. I went out drinking with my friends one night and I met a guy, he was cute and flirty and I needed some non-constructive terapeutical drunken sex with a stranger, in an attempt to move on from my ex. So I went home with him. We were on his bed, both half naked and making out, when suddenly my drunken brain travels to my ex, who had recently ripped out and stomped on my heart, and my whole body just shuts down, and my eyes tear up. The guy I´m with notices this immediately, stops what his doing and asks; are you okay? I say; no, I´m sorry, I have to go! He gets up, helps me find my clothes while asking if there´s anything he could do for me, then he walks me to the door and says; I´m sorry you´re not feeling well, I´d really like to see you again, here´s my number, if you want to, call me. Then we say goodbye and I go home, and that was it! Stranger guy, drunken girl, no rape! True story! This is what I believe normal men act like, and so should the rest of society. Don´t blame the victims, don´t blame men, blame the rapists!

Thank you for reading!

The Literal Cat Caller

At the restaurant where I work there´s this guy who comes in every week. He likes to communicate with me, not through words, but by using that little noise you make with your mouth when you call a cat. After threatening to stop serving him if he ever did that again, he has now stopped and is communicating with me like a normal human being.

The no-personal-space dude

I was waiting to cross the street along with a bunch of other people. This guy comes up to me, literally puts his face 5 cm (2 inches) from mine and starts singing to me. Then he goes; hey baby, his face still right next to mine. I´m looking at him with a facial expression combined of shock and utter disgust, he shows no understanding of my perception of the situation, but just continues to give me the “let´s have some sexy time” eyes. I walk over to the other side of the crowd and wait for the lights to change.

Creepy metro guy

This took place during the celebration of the Catalan national day  a couple of days ago.  I was on my way to work, rushing to catch the metro, at the entrance there´s a drunk middle aged man midst national day celebrations, as I pass by he looks up and goes:

Holy shit! Do you have a boyfriend?? Hey, I´m talking to you, why are you ignoring me?? I will follow you if you don´t talk to me! I will follow you!!!

Luckily he didn´t follow.